Adler/Maslow Personality: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
- The third need in the hierarchy
- Maslow allowing for four exceptions to the hierarchy
- Speaking directly about competitiveness
- The growth of competitiveness
Competition is something that has run in my blood since I can remember. I have gone against the grain of what a ?normal? female gender role entails, I have been very competitive in all aspect of my life, starting when I was younger with a co-ed baseball team, which blossomed into playing for a girl's fast pitch league, and eventually becoming the first female (and youngest) umpire that the suburban Chicagoland area ever had. It wasn't enough for me just to be an umpire, though, as I felt that if I was going to do it, I was going to be the best; and I did exactly that. I took the time to get my nationally recognized certification, and I worked my way up the ranks. I also took part in other male dominated activities, such as cross country fox hunting on horseback. These are just two of the many examples of my outright competitive nature that is an obvious part of my everyday personality.
[...] For example, a parent might put their child's needs in front of their own, therefore putting their belonging and love need before their own physiological need. A second exception to the hierarchy is that a constant deficiency puts a tolerance on someone. For instance, if someone has made it thorough life in a third world country with little food, they may be able to bypass that physiological need and move up the hierarchy, without that completely being fulfilled. The third exception is a history of satisfaction, in which if you were previously satisfied, that might allow you to skate through the rough spots and have a tolerance of having a temporary deficiency. [...]
[...] These needs are divided into two sets. The first one is the desire for achievement and confidence, and being recognized as an individual independent of others. The second is receiving esteem from other people, which includes being recognized and appreciated. I feel that competitiveness directly relates to both of these, as if you are not competitive, you will not receive attention for anything. One must go out of their way and work to gain confidence and achievement. I did this through my athletics, my academics, and also through music. [...]