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  1. Abstract
  2. Intimacy in marriage
  3. Intimacy
    1. Understanding intimacy
    2. The nature of intimacy
    3. The most unique of intimate interactions within a marriage
    4. Difficult areas of intimacy
  4. Barriers of intimacy
    1. The complex nature of building intimacy within a marriage
    2. The emotional skill of identifying one's emotions
    3. The expectations with regard to intimacy
    4. Attachment styles
    5. Expectations for sexual intimacy
    6. Christians and intimacy
  5. Increasing intimacy
    1. Increasing mindfulness
    2. Following an increase in mindfulness
    3. The importance of reducing conflict in a marriage before intimacy can increase
  6. Conclusion
  7. References

Intimacy is a major component of marriage that can accurately predict marital satisfaction. Many areas of intimacy are identified, but emotional and sexual intimacies are thought to be the most important within a marriage (Worthington, 1999). Intimacy is defined and discussed in relation to emotional skills and mutuality. Barriers to intimacy include personal differences in needs for intimacy, as well as learned behavior, social expectations, and attachment styles. Although some of these barriers are inflexible, interventions and possible changes are discussed. As humans, we experience many types of relationships throughout our lives. We have family relationships, which begin as our closest relationships and eventually become more distant as we become adults and gain independence. We also have friendships, which can begin and end, change or stay the same.

[...] achieving the kind of intimacy described in the Bible, and therefore are not satisfied in their marriages. Many times, this lack of intimacy creates a general unhappiness and leads to divorce. Barriers to intimacy are numerous, but they can be broken down, and couples can learn skills to increase their marital intimacy, creating a more satisfying marriage. Intimacy Defining intimacy is a difficult process. It involves openness and vulnerability across many areas of one's life. Intimate relationships such as marriage involve knowledge, caring, interdependence, mutuality, trust, and commitment (Miller & Perlman, 2009). [...]

[...] Worthington also identifies the need for a balance of distance, coaction, and intimacy in these areas in order for each partner's needs to be fulfilled. Lack of such a balance leads to dissatisfaction and a drive to change, which can create either tension or increased closeness in the couple, depending on how the individual addresses his or her needs to their partner (Worthington, 1999). John Gottman, a researcher who has developed a model that predicts divorce and marital stability with over 90% accuracy, describes the foundations of a healthy marriage, which are in essence different forms of intimacy (Gottman, Ryan, Carrere, & Erley, 2002). [...]

[...] order to achieve intimacy and mutuality in sexual relationships, couples must ?deconstruct? or unlearn constraining messages that they have integrated about what it means to be a sexual man or woman? (Zimmerman et al p. 307). This begins with education on the influence of media and the gender roles they portray, and identifying the way that these messages from the media have influenced each partner's sexual expectations and attitudes. Zimmerman et al. also asserted: Women and men may benefit from information that addresses sexuality as important to both genders and that dispels myths about men being virtually always interested in, available for, and knowledgeable about sex. [...]

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