A discussion concerning bullying in everyday life
- Human beings: Rating, judging, mistreating or manipulating each other.
- Categories of bullying.
- Bukkying and the most direct and immediate negative repercussions.
- Types of bullies.
- The victims of bullying.
- Retaliation against extensive abuse and bullying.
When one hears the term ?bully?, one may begin to think of television characters like ?Butch? from The Little Rascals, ?Mad Dog? or ?Sweet Daddy? from Good Times, or Mafia gangsters like ?Scarface?. The aforementioned characters are very indicative of the different kinds of bullies that are in our society. As often stated, art imitates life. Most people, as they watched these characters on television, were able to identify with them whether directly or indirectly. There may have been characters that reminded viewers of themselves or that reminded them of some other person whose path they may have crossed in their life time. It is probably safe to assume that everyone has bullied some other person or has been bullies by another person. There are many reasons that people become bullies or intimidators of others. So many people in this society are not good communicators or do not possess the adequate compassion or concern for the understanding of other people. This lack of compassion and misunderstanding translates into various types of bullying - verbal, emotional and physical.
[...] When family members are in business together, there is always a time when the boss is more lenient with his brother-in-law who is also his store manager because he is the boss's wife's baby brother. This leniency may actually be detrimental to the productivity of the business. Additionally, the brother-in-law may conveniently remind the boss that his wife (the brother-in-law's big sister) would not be happy to hear that her baby brother is being treated unfairly on the job. This is a simple example of how family members are bullied by other family members when money is in the equation. [...]
[...] Most times, there is a perceived distinction in the power or size of the parties of a bully-victim relationship. Bullies verbally abuse weaker persons or gradually weaken others by way of the harsh words used towards them. Verbal bullying is not the same as teasing because bullying involves repetitive attacks on the same person. Words can truly be piercing to the confidence of a person. When I was in elementary school, students called each other four-eyes, bean pole, HUMPTY-DUMPTY, brace-face and jelly belly. [...]
[...] Those children, more than likely, had been mistreated or bullied by their parents, siblings or fellow classmates but never received assistance or attention from anyone in a timely manner. As much as most parents do not like to acknowledge it, much of the bully behaviour of the world is learned in our family homes. It is this exact denial of the truth that creates and then perpetuates the negative ramifications of bullying. The best way to control and diminish the impact of bullying on our society is to develop a system to do such. [...]